Thursday, January 7, 2010

Dreams deferred?

Ah, my diary-keeping days and resolutions are out to haunt/mock me.
I came across an old diary of mine. I penned my love plan on the 1st of January, 1999 and it goes thus:
19: First serious relationship as an adult
22: At least 2 more relationships
24: Meet Mr. Right if I haven’t already
26: Graduate/Marriage
27: First baby
31: Child bearing over
32: Back to career
I think this plan went awry at 24 cos here I am 4 days shy of my 32nd birthday and Mr. Right aint in sight. So what’s a gal to do? Go back to the drawing board and reevaluate. 'What went wrong', 'What can be built on', 'What should be thrown out', 'what is still achievable'.
Thankfully, all are still achievable ;-) but to be practical, the last shall now be the first.
Friend S reminded me that a career and love are not mutually exclusive. for a long while i felt they were. You can only achieve one at a time. Well, I have now changed my mind. come to think of it, I will be achieving three things; improve my career set skills, be in the path of eligible men, widen my diminishing social circle. wise gal yeah? oh and need i forget, increase my dowry thus giving return on investment to my parents.
I am an Ibo gal, people. The higher my education, the more Mr Right pays. No pitying dear man. You should have snapped me up when I was cheaper and less antsy from waiting for you!!
But really Peeps, is the Ibo gal's dowry a real obstacle to early marriage in the East or just an excuse that guys give to keep playing the field for longer?

p.s. In case you wondered why I was planning on 2-3 more relationships before meeting Mr. Right, I will tell you all about my dating philosophy in another post soon.


  1. "...will tell you all about my dating philosophy..." still waiting.

    Short of which, how did you intend to have 8kids within a space of 4years (27-31)?

  2. 8 kids??? Lord have mercy!!
    just 3 or 4. One per year...



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