Wednesday, May 23, 2012

This is Oyiboland - How to mind your kid

Hey People,

I'm sorry about my impromptu absence, I am back and I promise not to disappear like that again. If it's any comfort to you, now I know what withdrawal-symptons feel like!!!

Mucho Thanks to Toinlicious, Cherrywine, Lady Ngo, Okeoghene and Madge-ine the Twaddle for my Liebster award. I will answer your 50 Questions o_O in my next post. Wahala dey!

Another Thank you to Toin for checking up on me :). Isn't she the sweetest!

I took these pictures on Sunday while sunning myself near the mall in Newcastle City Centre after Mass. I welcome explanations on why this couple could not hold each child by the hand. A Nigerian mom dares not try this unless you want to be declared unfit for parenting. smh


32 comments:

  1. now whats the difference between that dog and those kids? abi are they pickpockets? na wa

    ReplyDelete
  2. So children don turn to dog wey dem dey use robe drag...nothing wey we no go see for this Obodo Oyinbo land.

    ReplyDelete
  3. the thing is a mess. i'd rather have a short rope tied on one end to the parent's belt and the other end to the kid's belt. that way, there's no danger of getting lost in a crowd. But with this style of leashing children when the environment doesn't look remotely threatening, i say NO!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I think that's the keyword - the innocuous environment. Maybe if they were at some fair or show yes but not just walking around a shopping mall.

      Delete
  4. But I wonder if the parents don't feel somehow about doing this? I find it really strange that a society that is indignant about all forms of child abuse would accept this... curious...

    Welcome back Ginger!! I missed you!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Madame Leeds. Thanks. The parents didn't o. Dad stopped at some point and had himself a good smoke then continued walking. Indifferent parenting at its worst.

      Delete
  5. LOL, this reminds me of a episode of modern family where they all went to disneyland.
    Good to have you back :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Lol. I can Imagine. I once got lost at a tradefair as a child. I can imagine that some sort of rope could have kept me attached to my mom.

      I think i just hate the look of that halter.

      Delete
  6. IDK what it is about black people (regardless of ethnicity) and leashes lol. I personally don't see anything wrong with the backpack leash, so long as there is a legitimate reason for using it(like in a big amusement park and/or you have a REALLY unruly child that is fond of running off). I wouldn't just be walking down the street with my kid on a leash for no reason. Thats a lil...!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Exactly!! Those are legit reasons.

      Leave us black people oo. We are the best parents after all(tic).

      Delete
  7. Yay! She updated. I was just about replying your mail. Welcome back!

    I'm with LadyNgo tho. Leash kwa?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Who is teaching you Ibo?? Yes o Leash. Bingo come here. Lols.

      Delete
  8. I dont get it either. I have tried to justify it several times but I always come short of a good excuse.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hi Angel. It seems there are good justifications from comments received so I will not be quick to eye parents anymore.
      Its still not my best option shaa.

      Delete
  9. lol.I've seen this here too so many times. It just makes me laugh whenever I see it cos the kids are so adorable and seem oblivious to the rope and all. Welcome back :-)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Stelzz. Its been a while I saw your fingerprints. Missed you :)

      Delete
  10. Please don't go anywhere again!! *straight face* Welcome back hun!! and that picture definitely cracked me up. I don't get it either but maybe they want to give the children space to walk around, which they cant do if they hold their hands. Gerrit?

    Meanwhile I tagged u in ELEVENS :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Hun. Will go check out your elevens.

      Delete
  11. It depends. I don't think leashes are necessary for the majority of children. You can manage to hold their hands and give them a stern stare if they want to break free and wander away. I think generally, oyibo people overdo these things.

    That said, for parents of some children with autism, it is literally a life-saver because some of these children tend to bolt for no reason. And these parents would rather bear the irritating looks of strangers than have their children run into traffic or just plain run off! The children look typical, so we strangers walking along the road may be quick to judge the parents, but we don't know o... I see a woman with twin boys every week as she enters a treatment centre for autism. These two boys are always on leashes. I used to look at her like "these crazy oyibo people sef" but only God knows what those children have shown her.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hi Nkem. Welcome to my blog if you are not Myne Whitman :)
      Thanks so much for your input. I must admit i have never thought of how helpful it could be for parents of kids with challenges.
      Note to self - think before you leap :)

      Delete
  12. Call me old school but I will never mind my children this way, it just reminds me of how we rear goats in the village in Nija. Whenever we go shopping I always hold my 3yr old by the hand and he's used to it and doesn't run off!

    Nwanyi ba anyi, nnoo.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Dalu Nwokeoma! Ahh, remember those stubborn goats? you pull and pull and they just dig in their hooves..lol.

      I hold the kids too.

      Delete
  13. Ha, trust me, I have seen many a 'shild' who deserves the leash!

    ReplyDelete
  14. Yea first time i saw this was in England and i couldn't understand it. But.......i've seen some kids sprint and so i guess in some cases this is actually a safety precaution.

    However, i trust my mother will be one of the first people to stop these parents on the road and give them a proper talking to.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. A parenting blogger said his job is to prevent his kids from 'committing manslaughter' so i guess leash is better than accidental death.

      Delete
  15. LMAO, I used to be angry at this oh but not anymore I tell you. I don't think I can do it to my child sha because of our Nigerian mentality, I never born so I'm just saying for now but I tell you like HD said there are so many children that deserve this leash oh because them no dey hear "come back here". It's better to take caution than be sorry oh.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Because them no dey hear 'come back here' That is ehnn!! lolssss

      Delete
  16. I SUPPORT THIS SYSTEM OF CHILD REARING. Since Oyinbo can't spank their children or yell at them to behave, the next best thing is to put them on a leash. No be my pikin dem go take put 'amber alert.'

    ;D

    ReplyDelete
  17. I think the leash is OK. It actually allows the child some leeway to explore their curiousity and yet not too far away that they get lost.

    ReplyDelete

LinkWithin

Related Posts with Thumbnails