Saturday, January 5, 2013

Grateful





I am thankful for a new year and its promises for greatness. 365 clean slates to write my story..no, 361 more days. I started this year on a high. I can smell the new air. I am expectant. Can't you feel it? lol. 
Unlike its predecessor 2012 which in retrospect was a training ground.

Take a walk with me through 2012

Hidden Talent
January had started with hope. I graduated..with a merit to boot. Added a year but was one broke babe.
Managed to apply for my post study visa thank God and thanks to two angels..you know yourselves.
Then began the long wait for the home office to answer..and within that time I was neither here nor there with job applications, with travel - I couldn't go home (Nigeria),I missed a conference in Atlanta in March because I had no travel document, a conference i had looked forward to as an opportunity to network and meet future PhD supervisors. I couldnt go to Nigeria. 
To add insult to injury, I applied and supposedly got this job with Stop Polio (a WHO project). Only for me to find out, following a frenzied exchange of mail 4 days after that there was a mistake and my name had been mixed up with someone else. Ginger wept.
To keep body and soul together, I resurrected my hair making skills among my bevy of female friends. Talent is discovered in scarcity/Practise really makes perfect cause in a short while even i couldnt believe my handiwork!!
 Family
What would i have done without the warm and cheery support of the world's best Mom and Dad, sisters and brothers. We call, chat, gossip, CARE. My mom is really old now..81. She keeps asking after my PhD..I might as well do the PhD and make it real huh? Thank you God for keeping them safe.

Durham Fam
I met Ij by serendipity and ended up living with her and her family after i left school. Hers are the kids i wrote about two posts earlier. It was the best of times! We have laughed, argued, cried, quarrelled and made up like sisters. She's a nwanne di na mba. Thank you.
There is a small but extended group of Nigerian families in Durham. Beautiful wonderful, families. They added color to my life with their oddities, gossip and parties. J,Z,O,E,Y Thank you.

Blog Fam
Of course you were an important part of my year. you made me laugh, dance, cry, vex. Thank you for being YOU. I have no intentions to bow out anytime soon. my work isnt done joo. But err,Myne pls share your recipe!! Thank you for following. For reading. for taking your time to comment. For agreeing with my opinions. For disagreeing with them.
p.s. I am yet to meet any blogger in real life. Hope to change that this year. London bloggers do something na.

Friendships
I remember when Tizzle blogged about the friendship crisis she was having. I gave her some advice based on my experience not knowing that I had future hurt. 
It hasn't been my best year with girlfriends. I've prayed with, rejoiced, been expectant, been disappointed, hurt, angry with the antics of my friend. The secrets, the gossips; yet i cant deny that when I needed them most, those that mattered came through for me. Thank you.

A close friend of mine went through an agonising period in her life alone because she thought i would judge her. I don't know which hurt most...finding out that she had been bearing it alone or that she didnt tell me cause she thought i would judge her. Me??? All is well in paradise now thank God.

There are one or two friends i should prolly reach out to, but another part of me asks...why? Pride park well. lol

Men and Marriage
From a proposal in March which sorta led to nothing (like the Copenhagen climate change summit. How does that happen?), to the best friend who is looking for Ms Perfect (sadly not me!), to the fella who is actively working on 'Project Get Ginger Hitched', To the one who wants me to be a baby mama to his Kanye West, To the frogs who refused to become princes, To the ones who are in the wings buoying and supporting all the way. Thank you.
My 2013 pact with God is that I am going to have a baby. All I ask is that He sends the perfect accessories. Amen!

Faith
I had my worst crisis of faith this year. Its not that I lost my belief in God No. But I started doubting bits in the Bible. Yes the Creationism and Evolution dichotomy. I had gone from rejecting Evolution to believing that evolution was compatible with Creationism (story for another day).
Then I remember one day in church whn the priest teased us that he hopes no body here thinks that men and women have different number of ribs. Well, you coulda pushed me with a feather cause I did. Don't laugh.
As small as that was it just made me question how many things I had just accepted with faith without applying common sense.
Anyway, I have since made my choice to cling to the wisdom of God than that of scientists. So be it.


Career
I'm a bit confused about what trajectory my career should follow. Human or animal. Maybe a merger of the two? I'm still on the look out for research opportunities. PhD seems to be the best option for now but till I secure funding, I have to shelve it.

Jobwise
I had a breakthrough with the job search in March. It was far from my dream job, but I was thankful. Thankful that my account was green again. Thankful that I had a job to go to. Thank you Mark!
I have a scar to remind me of this period. I look at it and smile.
As the job was part-time, I took up a volunteering position with Oxfam. An opportunity to learn new skills, make friends, have great team Lunches. Thank you Bryony and Rob.
In between these activities, i was still intensively job searching. Both here and in Nigeria. My CV got a facelift at least twice a week. then the interviews started coming. Some even involved traveling - Newbury, Manchester, London. The rejection letters afterwards read the same. (Nigerian HRs are terrible. As bad as rejection letters are, it is still good to get them. At least you can put that application off your list and move on. Nigerian firms just leave you in limbo!).

Finally. Just when I was about to give up, a job came through after a couple of tests and assessments. No hassles, just a phone call to confirm my start date. I remember the HR saying bye and i was just starring at the phone thinking, "Really?! just like that" *rolls eyes*
It was till I got my written offer a few days after that I fell on my knees in thanksgiving to God, then told my family.
But it wasn't just about a new job in the health sector (yay!!), It was a new start. I had to relocate to Newcastle. Yes Geordie shore lol. That was a break I badly needed. It was Baba God's New Year present to me.

Its a month now and I can't believe the change in my life. I sleep easy. Wake up happy and hopeful. May it continue. Amen!
Lessons learnt
Nothing you never heard. Don't give up. Its okay to cry, but never stop believing. Just one event can catalyse life changes.

I pray for a beautiful 2013 for you my friends. Like my Blessed Mary said to Angel Gabriel, 'May it be done to YOU according to His Word'. That's all.

Happy New Year People!!



45 comments:

  1. Yay! So happy for you. Wishing you an even more amazing 2013 especially in the PhD, babies & accessories dept *muah*

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  2. Happy New year. Congratulations on the job. I pray this year brings more blessings. Your take on evolution and creationism made me smile. I too believe that both are compatible, not in their entirety, but on many levels. I'll save my comments on it for the day you write a post on it :D.

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    1. Thank you Prism. Amen Amen and same to you.
      That post...hmmm, you go wait tire o. I don't know if I am ready for the controversy :(

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  3. I am happy for you o.

    Your mum is even older than my grandmother. I sure need to respect you more lol.

    I can't count how many bloggers I have met. I even went to london to meet one blogger, lol. I am sure you know we are gonna hook up when next I come, abi?

    Happy new year.

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    1. You've met that many bloggers? I'm green. I must beat your number starting with you.

      Yeah, we are an old family. Including me.

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  4. GINGER!!! *HUGS*....You dont know what you just did by sharing this testimony of your job..HA!

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    1. Hug back. I'm glad I was able to inspire.

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  5. Newcastle rocks..... Great year by all accounts.. :)

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    1. Newcastle rocks indeed! When are you coming?

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  6. Congrats dear!!!!!! So happy for u. On the London hook up, we should plan it well na...lol...as for 2012 being a training ground, it sure was

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    1. I know you are :). Hook up mustu happen. no dodging it.

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  7. Wow, your hair making skills are really good. Congratulations on your new job. It really pays to never give up. I feel you jare! I enjoyed reading through the whole post. Hopefully if I save up enough to do my Europe tour this year then who knows, maybe we'll just see.Have an awesome 2013!!!

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    1. Thanks Stelzz.

      Oh do please save fast and furious. My home is on offer. I will make nkwobi for you and I promise it will be edible ;)

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    1. Thank you Adura. This is a year of great things Amen!

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  9. Happy new year ginger! Its good to be thankful.

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    1. It is...good to be thankful I mean. I am. God bless us.

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  10. Wow. I'm glad things turned out so well for you. May this year be even better.

    How far is Newcastle from Manchester, by the way. I like to travel and I won the Best Houseguest Award for 2012 *straight face*

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    1. Amen Nwa oma!

      Best Houseguest Award? Impressed. Oya come, lets test it.

      Uche, Man to NewC isn't far. 3.5hrs by bus. you can even mega it ;). Shorter by train. I'm waiting.

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  11. You really did have an eventful year in 2012. Wow! The 2012 recounting that indeed got me laughing uncontrollably is the one on 'Men and Marriages'.

    Do a have a very resourceful year this 2013. All the best, Ginger!

    http://www.dayorwrites.blogspot.com/2012/12/little-little-wars-joseph-omotayo_3136.html

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    1. Abeg laugh o. My matter with men can only be settled in heaven.
      Resourceful year? New one! Thank you!

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  12. aww!! what a happy post, what a testimony, i feel you on the don't give up, 2012 was not a good year for some of us but we are holding on..really happy for you and happy new year:)

    Ps i love that braid, its really neat, its been ages since i did hair o!

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    1. Thank you Jemima. I'm just thankful. Please don't ever give up. God's got a plan.

      And lady, Go and get your braids on!!

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  13. I'm so happy for you concerning the job thing. And the braids, so cool. 2012 was really a crazy year for a number of people and I wasn't left out but I am grateful too for the grace to have a fresh start. I wish you all the beautiful things you deserve. The baby and the right'accessories', a way better job and peace of mind. This year would be good. Very good. For all of us. Bless you.

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    1. Hugs LilyJ. This year, it will be different, Amen!

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  14. Thank you for sharing that, I feel inspired. Happy 2013! LOL @ London bloggers do something!

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    1. Glad i inspired! Its gonna be a good year Amen!
      Yes o, London bloggers do something.

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  15. Congrats Ginger! This year you will surely carry your baby. I join you in prayer for the right accessories.
    Happy New Year!

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  16. Hi Ginger! Thanks for sharing! Plus you braid real nice. To more direction, love, faith this 2013!

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  17. happy new year. congrats on the job

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    1. Tanks Luciano. Happy New Year too!

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  18. Happy New Year! congrats on the new job...good things will only come your way. Just stay focused on what you want to achieve!

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  19. Honey plum, I'm happy you're happy. Have a fantastic 2013. Accessories though? Lol... I would love to be the virtual godmother to your baby if you'll let me. I'm really happy for you o, I just had to say that again.

    Dont be a stranger.

    Mmmwah!!

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    1. Honey Plum plum. Thanks dear. I won't..be a stranger I mean.

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  20. Ohh, I was smiling widely by the time I got to the end of this :)

    Congrats my dear and may you get all you hope for this year too. Amen.

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    1. Thank you Myne. Wishing you a wonderful year too.

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  21. wow! you really have got talent, see the beautiful braids! I thank God for your life and that of your family... may the good Lord continue to be your help in this year as well.
    Blessings and more...

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    1. Meedaasi Akua!

      May the same blessing come to you too, Amen.

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  22. Happy new year Ginger, I am thanking you for this uplifting post. I swear Naija HR are just on another level, they are still stuck in the stone age and are rude.

    All the best in 2013.

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    1. Thank you Lara. Thank you.

      smh@Naija HR too. Feedback is soo poor.

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