Sunday, September 15, 2013

Marry Me Review

Hey Blogfam,
How has your weekend been? A poster on Romance Meets Life asking readers to help her choose between two wonderful men (sic) who want to marry her reminded me of Lucy Liu in the TV miniseries Marry Me. 

Till date Marry Me ranks as one of my absolute favourite romantic comedies. It was romance with a capital R infused with Comedy with a capital C topped with smart dialogue and a happily ever after ending that leaves a smile on your face for days after.
Too much praise Ginger? Sue me lol. I have willingly mostly deliberately re-watched it about 5times now and believe me that’s a feat for me. I rarely watch movies twice cause I am scared they will lose their magic on second watch (case in point, the movies Avatar and Titanic) but this one hasn’t.
Think of it like your favourite ice cream flavour. You don’t mind experimenting with other flavors but it is your default when you just want the familiar. 

Cast: Lucy Liu, Steven Pasquale, Bobby Cannavale, Enrique Murciano, Vanessa Marano and Annie Potts. 
Plot - Rae Carter (Lucy Liu) is a social worker who just ended a 3 year old relationship when her frog-loving boyfriend chose to pursue a Frog project than put a ring on it. But within weeks/months she had gone from being 'The Dumped' to 'The Pursued' by not one but 3 ardent suitors.
Luke – An architect and the quintessential boy next door. Introduced to Rae by the family pastor, he knew what he wanted from the start, but could he make Rae see it?
Harry –  Luke’s best friend, the quintessential fairy tale prince, handsome, charming, rich as Croesus. He makes Rae rediscover her potentials.
Adam –  The frog loving boyfriend who realized her true worth when she walked out of his life and is now determined (with a capital D) to win her love.
The real deal is obvious to the viewers from the beginning but I guess if you were in the thick of it, you might be as indecisive as Rae cos my o my! The other two were serious temptations!! The first time I watched it, I was loudly casting and binding MFM style, even as I was sighing at the romance of it all lol.

The Good bits
Lucy Liu ably held her own in this movie - as a career woman who dreams of being swept off her feet, yet she is able to present her aspirations in a way which doesn’t make them seem incongruent. You also couldn’t help but love her warmth and her sense of style (she was figure/picture perfect from start to finish) and her chemistry with the rest of the cast lit up each scene.
The supporting characters were also exceptional from the best friend (where is the heroine without a best friend), her work colleagues, her crazy southern family, and the precocious teenager Imogen (Vanessa Imogen) her runaway court ward which was the icing on the cake. Their problems were real and intriguing enough but never detracted the viewer from Rae’s pursuit of romance.
You just couldn’t help but root for happily ever after for everyone.

Lastly the movie is in two parts, running into a total of 3hrs. Make sure you leave enough time to watch both at same time unless you’ll be grizzly till part 2.

Bad bit - 
This movie is escapism at its best. And there is nothing wrong with that, Thank you :).

p.s. Some kind person uploaded the movie on Youtube. The picture quality isn't the best but if I've got you curious, then you might just check it out :))

Have you seen Marry Me? Tell me what you think of it.

Monday, September 9, 2013

Why is My Marital Status Your Business?

Recent conversation with a male friend.

Friend: How is your bf or fiance?

ME: He is fine, thank you

Friend: Okayyyyy oooooo

ME: We will join your group soon, Amen.

Friend: We still dey hope

ME: lol. Maybe you should encourage me. tell me 5 reasons why it is to my advantage to marry.
JAMB question. 

Friend: There are three stages in life - green horn, matured, Spent

ME: ha

Friend: You don’t need any reason to marry. What stage are u?

ME: Haba. see Nigerian answering question with question

Friend: You can be 50 and u still prefer to be called a green horn

ME: Exactly!

Friend: It depends on you.....and u can be 26 and you wanna be referred to as a veteran

ME: Okay. how does that answer my question?

Friend: Marriage makes you responsible for the life of another or other people directly, it is a true test of your womanhood.
its either u embrace it or chicken out!

ME: SO. Cant believe that's your reason hopefully that applies to men too??

Friend: Just advising u, its not necessarily my reason

ME: and secondly, many unmarried ones give their lives to raising siblings and other people's children. so they are not women cause they are not married?

Friend: Its the next phase of your life you need to embark upon whether u like it or not......or else u can make up any excuse not to
Its part of human development
as far as u never remained an infant for 30 somthing years
its part of growing up
bikonu...enuf English for this fb sef
it applies to everybody, but the good News is that.....not everyone is destined to get married some prefer to be gay, lesbian.....etc so that means there is tendency to be inequality in the marital cycle.

ME: I hear you.

Chat Conversation End

This friend of mine just got married recently. I had asked the question about advantages of getting married expecting to hear him wax lyrical about the joys of getting married as experienced by him, not to hear him tell me I haven't passed the womanhood test. 
How many single eager-to-be married ladies are out there? Where are the men who should be passing their manhood test by making a commitment?
As you can see, he left the convo in a huff. For what na? My unrepentant unmarried self was annoying him?
Or Is there another interpretation to this I am missing?

At work, i am surrounded by 24-26year old females who are ambitiously saving up to make a mortgage paydown and own their first home - with or without a husband.
Here i am, unable to carry out a mature conversation with a male peer without it being about my marital status. smh

Friday, September 6, 2013

Benefits of Sex. Go Get Some Now ;)

Hey BlogFam,

I’m still recovering from Ms Sting’s post on Sunday about famed black Hero and Anti-racism Crusader Martin Luther King’s womanizing ways.
To say it struck at my belief in man’s goodness is an understatement. But I have myself to blame I guess, for daring to think that mere matter how famous or heroic or evangelical is infallible.
Only God is infallible Ginger. Look up to him. Amen!!

But I won’t lie all the talk about Sen. Weiner’s sexting, COZA Pastor Bimbo, Bill Clinton, Sanusi Lamido sort of just faded into insignificance. Ok not insignificance but I had this fatalistic attitude of….. Why bother?! Its genetic/evolution/preordained. Lets just learn to separate the Hero from the Penile control challenged man (apt acronym from Naijalines).

Discussing it with my girlfriend. she said times have changed now. That in today’s world he wouldn’t have gotten away with it. Maybe. But we still have the Al Gore’s. John Major’s. Jesse Jackson’s. Media and people seem to turn a blind eye to ‘seemingly lack of penile control’ only when it suits us, making those that get caught and actually pay for their sins - Weiner for example -  ‘unlucky’ not more guilty.

Anyway an interesting point was raised by Da Grumbler in answer to my rhetoric question “What is it about male leaders and sex? I guess all that testosterone needs release” on Sting’s page.

He answered ”@Ginger, I think you need to read "Think and Grow Rich" By Napoleon Hill. There is a chapter in it which he talks about the power of sex especially when that power is transmuted. It sure explains a lot why "LEADERS" have always been caught in sex scandals.....LMAO”.

I haven’t read Think and Grow Rich but I have read Napoleon Hill thoughts on the Power of Sex in a book I came across recently Outwitting the Devil. I had planned to blog about it sometime lol. Thought it was an interesting read. Anywho, let me share the salient bits.

Napoleon Hill emphasized throughout his writings that the person who is not master of himself can never be master of others.
And control of self starts by mastering 3 appetites responsible for most Indiscipline:
1. Desire for food
2. Desire for expression of sex
3. Desire to express loosely organized opinions (Wonder what he would say about new age social media lol)
When man becomes master of theses 3 appetites, he has developed enough self-discipline to conquer easily those of lesser importance.

What he says about Mastering sex
Sex is one of the greatest of all forces which motivate humans. Because of that it is also one of the most dangerous forces. If humans could control their sex desires and transmute them into driving force with which to carry on their occupation – that is if they spent on their work one half of the time they dissipate in pursuit of sex, they would never know poverty. (or impeachment or blackmail)
All great leaders in every walk of life are highly sexed but they follow the habit of controlling their sex desires by switching them into a driving force behind their occupation. By the time we remove present great leaders with sex scandals behind them, tell me who is left?

Benefits of Sex
#1. Controlled sex supplies the magnetic force that attracts people to one another. It is the most important factors of a pleasing personality.
#2. It serves to give motive power to one’s desires
#3. It sharpens the imagination and enables one to create useful ideas
#4. It is a great antidote for all fear
#5. It gives one immunity against procrastination
#6. It gives one physical and mental endurance while undergoing any form of opposition or defeat.
#7. It gives one the fighting qualities necessary under all circumstances for self defense
In brief, it makes winners not quitters.

And I might add that medical research indirectly supports the above:
Regular sex has the same benefits as regular exercise. It increases the flow of certain chemicals that naturally boost and strengthen the immune system, improves cholesterol levels, stimulates circulation, invigorates the heart, diminishes the intensity of pain -- especially in migraines and chronic arthritis -- may reduce PMS symptoms, and releases endorphins, which simply make you feel good :).

Advantages are plenty it seems and when I remember movies like The Gladiator, The Odyssey, 300, Troy #4, #6 and #7 are believable.
So Da Grumbler I see where you’re coming from lol. It does seem plausible BUT,

I prefer to believe Napoleon Hill meant ….. in the right place, time and with the right person not indiscriminate, dishonorable sexing please.

Disclaimer – Whatever you get up to this weekend, don’t put the blame on me. I did not send you message!!


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