Recent conversation with a male friend.
Friend: How is your bf or fiance?
ME: He is fine, thank you
Friend: Okayyyyy oooooo
ME: We will join your group soon, Amen.
Friend: We still dey hope
ME: lol. Maybe you should encourage me. tell me 5 reasons why it is to my advantage to marry.
Friend: There are three stages in life - green horn, matured, Spent
Friend: You don’t need any reason to marry. What stage are u?
ME: Haba. see Nigerian answering question with question
Friend: You can be 50 and u still prefer to be called a green horn
Friend: It depends on you.....and u can be 26 and you wanna be referred to as a veteran
ME: Okay. how does that answer my question?
Friend: Marriage makes you responsible for the life of another or other people directly, it is a true test of your womanhood.
its either u embrace it or chicken out!
ME: SO. Cant believe that's your reason hopefully that applies to men too??
Friend: Just advising u, its not necessarily my reason
ME: and secondly, many unmarried ones give their lives to raising siblings and other people's children. so they are not women cause they are not married?
Friend: Its the next phase of your life you need to embark upon whether u like it or not......or else u can make up any excuse not to
Its part of human development
as far as u never remained an infant for 30 somthing years
its part of growing up
bikonu...enuf English for this fb sef
it applies to everybody, but the good News is that.....not everyone is destined to get married some prefer to be gay, lesbian.....etc so that means there is tendency to be inequality in the marital cycle.
JUST BE YOURSELF DEAR, AS U HAVE ALWAYS BEEN.....CHEERS
ME: I hear you.
Chat Conversation End
This friend of mine just got married recently. I had asked the question about advantages of getting married expecting to hear him wax lyrical about the joys of getting married as experienced by him, not to hear him tell me I haven't passed the womanhood test.
How many single eager-to-be married ladies are out there? Where are the men who should be passing their manhood test by making a commitment?
As you can see, he left the convo in a huff. For what na? My unrepentant unmarried self was annoying him?
Or Is there another interpretation to this I am missing?
At work, i am surrounded by 24-26year old females who are ambitiously saving up to make a mortgage paydown and own their first home - with or without a husband.
Here i am, unable to carry out a mature conversation with a male peer without it being about my marital status. smh